Look at this ish….

So one of the things that I have struggled with since I have big chopped is how to apply the products in order to get the results I want. Fuzziness has been my arch enemy and he has been winning every epic battle. Until… tonight. Tonight in which I have absolutely no where to go and didn’t give a crap about what my hair looked like. Tonight was deep conditioning night so I washed my hair and slapped on my favorite DC. I baggied and sat under the dryer for ten minutes. I left the baggie on for another hour while I checked my email. Then I rinsed and decided since I wasn’t going anywhere I wasn’t using my expensive stuff and grabbed some Giovanni direct leave in and some KCCC (Kinky Curly Curling Custard) . I had some left from when I was transitioning and hated them both. I basically slapped them in, not really caring how it would turn out. I walked out of the bathroom to go answer the phone, returned to the bathroom, and looked in the mirror and was like wth! It actually looked great!! It wasn’t fuzzy At All and my hair is ALWAYS fuzzy. I didn’t have white head and it dried wonderfully. I had inadvertently discovered a sweet combination and method of getting the WnG results I wanted (with no freaking where to gooooo!).  Ugh. Ah, well. Trial and error is the best way right?

Front/Top

Look at this ish...No Where To Go! lol

I guess I need to revisit KCCC again!

Until next times hunnies!

To big chop or not, that is the question? Part 3

*Note: This post was written weeks/months before posting. I was still deciding whether or not to blog.

So, I have been deeply mulling over this belief that long hair equals beauty. After many nights of ranting to the bestie, I discovered that this “conditioning” came from many areas in my childhood which followed me into my adulthood. I remember in the 7th grade I got my first hair cut. I was very excited and loved it. I was an 80’s baby so the hair style I had was a mushroom cut with long hair in the back. All of my friends loved it and I did to until I overheard this particular conversation. There were these two boys who sat in the back of the classroom. One of the guys, the girls were absolutely crazy over. The other, well let’s just say his mommy loved him very much. Anyway, they were discussing what girls they thought were pretty and which ones were not. As they were judging girl after girl my name came up. I heard them both agree that I was cute except my hair was too short and I would be fine if I wasn’t bald headed. I turned around and said, “umm, excuse me but you cannot see my scalp and my hair is short by choice!” One of the long haired girls said, “yeah right.” Then, the boys said, prove it. Bring a picture tomorrow. By this time I am pissed, but being the Aries that I am I arise to challenges with the utmost intentions of crushing my opponent. I reply, not only will I bring a picture, I’ll show you (the girl who said yeah right) that my hair was longer than yours!

The next day I brought my pics and the boys say, “you are so pretty, why did you cut your hair?” Although I poked my chest out and gave those two a piece of my mind, that moment stuck with me deep inside my subconscious. Also, many of the guys I dated when I grew up were stuck on long hair. Even my grandmother was obsessed with it. When I told her I was thinking about going natural she was fine. But when I said I was thinking about cutting my hair she told me I was crazy and just about bit my head off. My apprehensions about cutting my hair began to makes sense to me now. I was now determined to shake off these past experiences and redefine for myself what beauty means. Also, I have a beautiful daughter who looks up to me and it is my job to set the example of how she should view herself. So, I shared these inner discoveries with the hubby, who loves long hair btw. However, he is totally supportive of whatever I decide to do, I’ll always be beautiful no matter what (hey, those were his words not mine lol)!

So, with that being said…

Big Chop Oct.16th, 2011

I did it! I cut off all of my heat trained hair and it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.

Until next time…Lotus Blossom out!

Umm, new style…I think. (I tried) lol

*Note: This post was written months before posting. I was still deciding whether or not to blog.

So, I’ve been trying out new styles I’ve seen on my hair and, well…no. Let’s just say I need to stick with what works, lol. Well, at least I tried! Enjoy…

I flat twisted the front of my hair

See, I already knew this wouldn't work lol.

Then I bantu knotted the rest.

Results

What do you all think?

Talk to you all later…xoxo

Transitioning hair styles (wins and fails)

*Note: This post was written months before posting. I was still deciding whether or not to blog.

 

As I stated in a previous post, bantu knots and pony tails are my go to hair styles while I am transitioning. I’ve added buns to the list and attempts at twist outs/braid outs. I have had some great hair days and some not so great days. Here are a few pics giving you a glimpse of what my journey has been like so far…enjoy.

My go to style…

Bantu knots

Bantu Knot (win)

Pony Tail

Twist Out

Twist Out (Fail)

Wash N Go

WnG ( major FAIL)

Yeah it pretty much obvious that WnG’s are NOT an option right now. That was a major fail.

Until next time …(Whatcha’ll doing)?

To big chop or not, that is the question? Part 2

*Note: This post was written months before posting. I was still deciding whether or not to blog.

I have been enjoying my transitioning  journey for some time now.  My new growth is coming along quite nicely. However, every once and awhile I look at my hair and wonder what my texture will be?  How will it curl?  Will it be loose or tightly coiled?  Then I imagine what I would look like if I got my big chop now? I would take a section of my hair when wet, find the line of demarcation and imagine how many inches would be left. Then I would damn near have a panic attack when thinking of chopping off my hair.  I’d shake these thoughts off with a “hmmph” and walk away.

Each day my curiosity of what my texture would become grows more and more while my fear of cutting my hair grows as well. What am I afraid of? Yes, the easy answer would be cutting my hair but I feel there is something more. Some “thing” that lies beneath the surface that I can’t quite put my finger on. Now I bet some of you are saying, “really Jiquay, it’s not that serious.” I’m telling you, IT’S THAT SERIOUS. As you continue to read my blogs you’ll realize I’m an unnecessarily complex person lol.  Any-who, after accompanying my cousin to get her bc (who btw just decided, “ok let’s do this”), and gasping after my friend showed up with her hair cut off out the blue; I knew it was time to figure out what was holding me back.

I’d like to take this time to tell the hubby and the bestie thanks so much for listening to my rants about why I need to cut my hair but not really at 3 in the morning! Hey pookie bear and Angel!!!!! Seriously, I’m taking these people through changes. I keep going back and forth. Up and down. Who knew hair could take me through so many emotions? I continued to contemplate what was holding me back and I finally realized what I was afraid of. I didn’t know who I would be without my hair. I had become so attached to my hair that I could not see myself without it. I identified with my hair. I was shocked and livid at the same time. How did I get here?  Where did I develop the belief that long hair equals beauty? It was time to find out…

Until next time… (Whatcha’ll doing 😉 )?

To big chop or not, that is the question?

*Note: This post was written months before posting. I was still deciding whether or not to blog.

When I made the decision to go completely natural, I made it my mission to transition long term. I took very good care of my hair and I was not the one to just go and cut my hair. So I researched for hours on YouTube and CurlyNikki.com for tips on long term transition styles. My go to styles were Bantu knots, and curly pony tails. Wash n Go’s weren’t an option because half of my hair curled just fine, while the other half had major heat damage. Eh, what’s a girl to do. I didn’t mind the transition styles. I had fun trying to figure out what style to do next. What I did mind was the detangling process. The first night of detangling my hair I cried. I had never lost so much hair in my life. It took me 2 hours to detangle my hair!!! I’m actually convinced it was longer to be honest. I frantically went to the Curly Nikki forums searching for help. Someone suggested detangling in sections, so the next time I washed my hair I did just that. It helped some but not very much. So I went from using Giovanni conditioner as a rinse out to Tresemme naturals. It helped a little but I was frustrated because it was still taking an 1hr to 1hr45 minutes to detangle.(I began to seriously consider the big chop) Even when I sat under a steamer it didn’t help. I tried Hair Rules quench to detangle and that didn’t help. The only relief I got was to dry detangle. “Say what?!” Yes dry detangle… well technically. Let me explain. I would gently separate my hair up into 8 sections. Then I would spray that section with Jane Carter’s Revitalizing Leave In Conditioner. (It is an excellent detangler!) Next, I would use my Denman brush to detangle and then braid that section into one braid. I did this for each section. It made detangling easier, but I still had a lot of shedding/breakage. Then I would wash each section one by one, add conditioner, clip up, and baggie. My hair would tangle right back up after rinsing the conditioner out and I’d have to detangle all over again with more shedding/breakage. I realized that one of the issues that contributed to my tangled mess was the fact that I had just gotten color 2 months prior to my natural hair discovery. (See previous post) It dried my hair out significantly. I purchased product after product. Nothing seemed to work. It seemed as if the big chop was eminent.

I came across the book, “Science of Black Hair,” along with the discovery of Denim Pixie’s (Elle) YouTube channel and blog, “Quest for the Perfect Curl.”  She did a video called, “Some Tidbits on Protein,” which I found very informative and the “Science of Black Hair” really broke it down further for me. So I grabbed all of the products I had and realized I was causing major protein overload in my hair which was causing it to be perpetually dry and shed/break. I began looking for moisturizing shampoos and conditioners. I used Hello Hydration conditioner as a rinse out first. I still hadn’t found a moisturizing shampoo. I had significant improvement on detangling but it still took awhile. I was down to 45 mins detangling in the shower, and for the 1st time my hair felt somewhat softer. Also, my shedding/breakage decreased.  I returned to Elle’s blog and on her Holy Grail list I saw Creme of Nature’s Argan Oil Moisture and Shine Shampoo.  I went to my local beauty supply store and picked it up. Score!!!! My hair felt so soft while washing, still in sections but much easier. The Creme of Nature coupled with my hello hydration decreased my shedding/breaking and detangling time significantly. I was down to 30 mins and was finally experiencing regular shedding. All is well in my world so there is no need to big chop now … Right?

See the heat damage?